For the times when we doubt our parenting skills, but desperately desire to instill the right words. Words that will pick our kids up and carry them through.
I have four girls. They are the craftiest-most entrepreneurial bunch I’ve ever met, and they didn’t get it from their mama. Those girls can craft and cook up the biggest storm when left to their own antics.
“Can we make a cake?”
“Can we go through our old toys and have a garage sale?”
“What about a lemonade stand?”
“I know! A play! A play! And we’ll make all of the costumes.”
Oftentimes, I hesitate because I know that all of those big ideas equal big messes. Craft supplies strung from cabinets and drawers, paper, scissors, tape, and markers everywhere. Toys sorted in odd piles, fabric being sized on the littlest sister, or flour and sugar coating my once-clean kitchen floor.
While they should be able to clean up their own messes and have appropriate guidance from their mother (a topic for another day), it creates a tremendous amount of anxiety for me.
I know I need to be more relenting—it’s something I’m working on. I want those little girls to know that their mom believes in them. That they can become who they want to be. That they can do hard-and-creative things, even if it gets a little messy along the way. I had a parent that encouraged me this way, so it’s only fair that I do the same.
This is what my own dad would say to me:
“YOU CAN do that thing.”
“YOU CAN become that.”
Those two words meant that anything I could dream up, I could do…
Photo courtesy of Ashley Soeder Photography