Is motherhood magical?
Childhood is certainly full of wonder and magic, but why is it so?
The sun had well gone down, their restless bodies were tired—but still full of energy all the same, unawares of how that routinely happens, I tucked them in their beds, gave them each a hug, turned off the light, and found a place to lay down on their floor.
We began our game as usual.
“What was one thing that you liked about your day, Kate?” I asked.
“Getting to stay home,” she quietly, but quickly answered.
I moved to my 6-year-old:
“Reese, what was good about your day today?”
“Getting to snuggle Mommy,” she said.
And then like every night, this familiar phrase prompted them both to climb out of their beds for one last hug.
I settled their little bodies back down, and then we continued until we had each stated 3 things that we particularly liked about our day.
There was nothing unusual about this night, their answers were routine: “Getting to stay home,” “Snuggling Mommy,” “Eating ice cream,” or “Picking the older girls up from school.”
But, what I realized on this particular night—was this:
These cute-little girls of mine, they love the ordinary, day-to-day things about life more than anything.
Simple is simply magical to them.
Even though it doesn’t always come as easily for me:
I want to view life like they do.
-My four-year-old’s constant pleadings to “just stay home” for the day. A girl after my own heart. ;)
-The way my 6-year-old peeks her dancing eyes through the slats of her bunk bed, when she’s too antsy to fall asleep.
-A nine-year-old who proudly got her homework completed.
-The new found joy that riding bikes with her dad brings my 11-year-old.
I’d like to embrace more of these ordinary moments.
5 Ways to Help Find Magic in the Ordinary Moments of Motherhood:
1. Be present.
There are plenty of ordinary moments in motherhood. Many of them in fact! But the difference has everything to do with whether or not we are in them all the way or not.
Are we taking the time to put the phone down, to open our minds and hearts to what’s really going on around us?
This one had me in near tears, and I wanted nothing more than to snatch my little ones out of bed each night, just to hold them. And most importantly, to put the phone down more often during their waking hours!
2. Know who you are as a mother.
I used to view motherhood as if it were a brightly-colored Pinterest board.
I can visualize the summertime-car-wash for kids crafted from PVC pipes; the glossy gumballs we’d string into cute necklaces; and four little girls in matching aprons (in my clean kitchen ;)) baking chocolate chip cookies with me.
And then something happened.
I realized that my everyday self isn’t quite that crafty.
Who are you?
Are you a Pinterest mom? Then be that mom. Are you a not-so-crafty mom? Then be that mom!
The richness of who you are is unique, and it’s beautiful.
3. Let go of guilt.
Let go of that perfect vision of what motherhood is “supposed” to look like for you, what childhood is “supposed” to look like for your children. Just let go.
Who cares if your kids aren’t running through that PVC-sprinkler-car-wash-thing in the summertime?!
Turn on the hose and make your own kind of magic.
4. Stop comparing.
Are your friends traveling the world with their kids? Does it seem like others can easily afford conveniences and experiences for their children when you can not?
The experiences one mom has to offer her children aren’t necessarily what your children need. Perhaps they were given you as a mother for a reason. :)
I’ve wasted lots of valuable time comparing, and I bet I’m not alone.
Let’s stop doing that.
5. Embrace small.
This one requires very little time, money, or even energy.
Watch for the expressions on your child’s face at any given moment; enjoy an opportunity to talk on your morning commute; or take your shoes off and run around with them in the backyard. Snuggle them.
These are the moments that are already there, we simply have to recognize them as opportunities.
Which ordinary moments can you make extraordinary?
There is something incredible about realizing that you don’t have to do more to be more.
We can turn to the examples of our children, and find life and joy in the day-to-day, ordinary moments of life.
Which ordinary moments of motherhood do you enjoy the most?